My Story


I grew up in Auckland, New Zealand (Aotearoa), with a passion for nature, adventure and helping others. I spent many years chasing different adventures around the world, taking me to places like Mongolia, Japan, China and Russia, before I’d turned 20.

It was shortly before my 21st birthday when I had a near death experience in India. I woke up in the middle of the night to find my hotel was on fire. After running through a burning hallway and narrowly escaping an explosion, I made it out alive, with just the clothes on my back (oh and a few bruises, burnt hair and tail bone injury that is still with me today).

I believe this experience was a gift from the universe that was sent to shake me onto a different path. Because of my tail bone injury that night, I found yoga. Or yoga found me. Initially it was just “exercise” to me, but slowly over time, it truly rewired my brain and touched my soul in a way that I hadn’t experienced before. I became comfortable sitting in discomfort, which is one of the best lessons I could have learned at a young age. I began looking at the world with so much curiosity, not taking things at face value and feeling into the true meaning of why I was here. 

Over the years I have become a strong voice for the oceans, animals, our planet, freedom & equality for everyone. I learned to embrace my authentic self, my soul’s voice that I had brushed aside for so long. I let go of fear of what people would think of me (and even if I still felt it, I just learned to do it anyway). 

After a lifetime of thinking I always needed to “think positive” and “be happy”, I began to learn that the true joy in life comes from being able to experience the full spectrum of emotions that live within us. If we are blocking ourselves from feeling the uncomfortable emotions, we won't be able to feel the full POWER of the amazing emotions too.

I discovered a vulnerability within myself that I had never wanted to look at, which lead to feeling the deepest joy I had ever felt in my life. If we are not truly willing to experience the pain life can throw our way, we’re never really on the field playing the game. We’re just on the sidelines.

I now truly love experiencing what life throws my way. I'm grateful for the good days, the hard days and everything in between.

Why I Do What I Do

I truly believe that the more we can connect with ourselves and show ourselves true love, the more we are able to connect with others and the world around us. We can only love someone as deeply as we love ourselves. So the more we can build our relationship to ourselves, the more we can show love, care and compassion to other humans, animals and the planet. AND CHANGE THE WORLD.

There are so many people out there that say things like ...
"You can't have everything you want"
"You're going to have to settle on something"
"You have to FULLY love yourself before you can find your person"

And I'm here to tell you that it's all a bunch of bull crap.

We don't wake up one day and realise we suddenly love ourselves. It's a journey. It ebbs and flows. Some days it's amazing and some days it's really hard to love ourselves. But as long as you are building that relationship to YOU, that's the important thing.

I know for a fact that we can all have the amazing relationship we have always dreamed of. IF we stop settling for things that make us shrink and feel small. We can all find someone who sees us at our core and allows us to be our most amazing, authentic, weirdly wonderful self.


My Love Journey


I'm so grateful for all the amazing humans that have been part of my journey in relationships over the years. They have all brought so many lessons and some major growth, and I believe they were all the right person for me in that moment we had.

Like many of us, I spent a long time floundering around, wondering WTF I was doing in love. Kinda wanting to find my person, but just not knowing at all what I wanted, and convincing myself I'd found them when they were actually a terrible match for me.

I got completely swept up in my first big love and got engaged back when I was 20 (drunk in a London nightclub ... such romance), even though I had no real intention of having a wedding, but I felt I never wanted to be without him. Needless to say, that one didn't end well.


I went through a whole bunch of different relationships in my 20s. I spent 5 years with someone where I fell deeply into a comfort zone and lost a lot of who I truly was. After that one ended I spent a long time on my own with some casual relationships in there, which definitely got messy at times when feelings inevitably got involved.

Through all of this, I liked to keep myself somewhat closed off. I never let my walls down 100% out of fear of rejection or getting hurt. Which worked, I never felt deep heartache or hurt in any of these relationships. I had a pattern of leaving before that happened.

That is until I thought I had met my person. I'd moved to a new country and met someone who I had a deep spiritual connection with (this was a first for me). I felt something in my soul the moment I met them that I'd never felt before (which helped me create all sorts of stories and I attached a lot to the idea that this was my person). I wanted to be vulnerable and go to new depths with someone, and I did. I found it so hard to separate the idea I had that this was it to the reality of how I was actually feeling, which was a state of constant confusion). In the end it led to my first epic heart break.

After another relationship where I fell back to old patterns and completely made myself small and dimmed so much of who I truly was, I finally said ENOUGH and committed to doing the work to stop repeating the same cycles.

I spent a lot of time grieving, growing, being uncomfortable AF, and coming back to who I was, giving myself the love I deeply wanted from someone else. And getting CRYSTAL clear on what I wanted in my dream partner.



Then I found the love of my life.

Amidst all the 2020 chaos, I ended up back in Aotearoa (very much against my will ... but you know, the universe sometimes has other plans).

Things flowed with so much ease right away. The way we were aligned on all our core values and our view of the world was outrageous.

I could feel how much this man was ready to love me. And I was shit scared to open up and let all that love in. To be truly seen by someone. To show someone my FULL authentic self.

But oh my gosh, when I did...it was even more magical than I could have ever imagined. I felt new depths of love, connection, trust, joy and intimacy that I had never experienced before.

I'm sooo fucking thankful that I never settled for less than I wanted. That I trusted there was more out there. That someone could match me so incredibly.

To this day, we still experience new levels of connection. We never want to limit it with what our minds see as possible. I am so so sooo grateful for all the lessons, pain, growth, healing that happened in order to lead me here. And I wouldn't change a thing.

And here we are today, creating our dream life together, married, being oddballs, exploring all the nature we can and just enjoying all the time we get to have together.

Qualifications

Diploma in Holistic Counselling
Certified with ETIA Effectiveness Training (Non-Violent Communication)
EFT & TFT Practitioner Certification
Certified Life Coach